Sat Night Journal | A Life Learning

So as I lay in bed on a Saturday night watching bride wars, thinking am I ever going to get married (why do us girls love watching rom coms knowing they can get us sad ha), my mind started to have a wonder.

When i'm close to someone, they can do me wrong and as soon as they chat all those memories about us both run back and I automatically almost forget what they did! Can you relate? In most cases it's someone i'm not close with, so it's easy to just walk away from it. But when it's someone close, when do you draw the line?

I always tell myself life is short to be holding grudges with people. If anything settle the problem and distance yourself, at least then there's closure on it.

But I find myself in situations sometimes where the same type of things with the same people happen because they think they its will forgive anyway.

So I've become more strict, is that the word? .. not so forgiving in some cases.

I've learn't to put myself and my happiness first. If that means we don't talk for months then okay. People will never acknowledge their wrong doing if you let them think it's okay to act a type of way.

& ofc it will be hard at first, but remember you have dignity and know your worth. Don't make excuses for people's good - we all have good in us. Ask yourself "would someone who cared about me do that?"

Forgiving people is a good trait to have and shows you have a kind heart, but don't let it take over your happiness. At the end of the day, if that person is mean't to be in your life, they will. No matter how long it takes.

What are you like as a person?
S x


  1. Interesting post! I think it's hard to forgive people, but better for us when we do. It's also better when we remove ourselves from situations that would let that happen again. So if someone wrongs you, and you eventually forgive them, you're still going to take precautions to stop them hurting you again. Forgiveness or not!

    Hope you are having a great weekend :)

    Away From The Blue Blog

  2. I can totally relate to this. Imagine that apology, and then move on from it! If you get the apology at a later date, then that's just wonderful!

    Alison @

  3. Forgiving people is sometimes a lot harder than walking away. I agree it is a good trait to have, and shows that you do care for people. I think I'm a forgiving person too, but I have a limit like many people do. x

    LAURA ­| Laura Thinks About

  4. This is a great inspiration. I find it hard to forget people who have hurt me but I don't like holding grudges. Pain gets better over time.

  5. Lovely post!

  6. Personally, I always do my best to forgive. But forgiving doesn't mean everything will be the same. Because we have to distance ourselves for toxic people as well.

  7. I love reading your personal posts, they're always a really interesting read. I think forgiving people is hard to do but is worth it in the end and makes you the better person!

    Cyber Mermaids | Alternative beauty, fashion and lifestyle blog

  8. I love reading posts like this! I struggle to forgive people if I'm being honest!

    Darriyan xx

  9. Loved this post, I'm a major grudge holder myself, I just can't help myself haha.

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  10. I'm like you on this one. I don't like bad vibes or grudges so I tend to forgive quickly but I have learned that not everybody deserves my forgiveness as many tend to not appreciate it. I chose quality over quantity in my life now, I'm not letting the wrong people too close to me.
    Great post Shelise. Have a wonderful weekend :)
    Sauniya | Find Your Bliss ♡

  11. Wise words babe, if people have done you wrong then they don't deserve you! You sound like such a diamond girl and really deserve positive, uplifting people surrounding you. I struggle to not bear grudges! I think forgiveness can be healthy, I guess it depends on the person and the situation. I'm so glad you've learnt to put yourself and your happiness first as it's what you deserve :)

    Sophie | soinspo xo

  12. always do you girl!

    With love,

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  15. Very interesting post. I can relate as this as it's a battle I often have with myself !

    Amani x


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