Dating | A Blessing in Disguise

Hey everyone,

I know it's been a while since I last posted! I recently finally got a graduate job in marketing, wahoo! So I've been sooo tired trying to get used to this full time work life haha. I hope to soon be back to posting every week.

Something that's been on my mind recently when it comes to dating, is us girls usually get so worked up and over think so many things when we start talking to new guy or were seeing them or have been on a few dates etc.. Sometimes we over think so much because we are so into them, and want it to work, that we start thinking so much into it "what do I say" "how should I reply" "how does that sound", we need to remember to just be our-self.

I know it's so much harder when your actually in the situation. But this was actually something my guy friend always says to me.

For e.g, i'l be telling him about a conversation i'm having with a guy I'm speaking to, or message him saying "he said this I don't know what to say" or "how does ... sound". His reply back to me is always "stop over thinking, just be yourself. If he doesn't like you for you, think of it as a blessing".

While I may get upset that things may not work out between me and the guy, or he stops talking to me or something, I've now realised it is actually a blessing. Why are we spending so much time and effort into trying to make a guy like us a lot, and getting upset if they don't, when we want to put our all into someone who actually appreciates us for who we are, and who's intentions towards us are good.

I do think these days where has the romance gone? It's quite hard to find it these days, or even find someone who wants a relationship. I'm 22, and I find that a lot of guys who are single just don't want to settle down till their like 26 or over. People always say you meet someone when you least expect it. I really like to think this isn't true, but I find that this is the case most of the time.

On a positive note, for anyone who's currently speaking to someone, or a guy isn't treating them good, instead of thinking of the negative fact it didn't work, think of the positive outcome.. it may have not worked out with this guy because your going to meet someone else and have an even better connection with them, and you save yourself the hurt in the long run.

So I've learn't to not get so down when things don't work out with a guy. Instead, I lift myself up and think "I want someone who is going to put 100 in me like I would for him", everything happens for a reason.