Instagram | A Social Media Date Gone Wrong

Hey everyone,

So I'm sure I'm not the only one who's spoken to someone from social media they've never actually met, I mean it's not an everyday thing, but it happens sometimes! You know, they add you, follow you, and you eventually start talking.. has anyone ever had a successful experience of this?! It's nice socialising with people you've never met sure, but I hate the thought of going through that awkward moment when you have to meet for the first time, can't we skip 5 minutes into it when we've met?!

I'm going to share an experience I had, a few years ago.. when I was 18-19, and it was by far the worst date I've had haha! One that I remember so vividly..

Me and this guy had been following each other on Instagram a while, I can't say how we even found each other, you know how it is though.. when you and someone keep liking each others posts for ages but you've never actually spoken. Anyway, back in the day when I was 18-19, Oceana, Kingston used to be the place I would go to allll the time! It was the local place I would always see everyone I knew, and guess who I saw?!

Yep.. I'm at the bar and notice the guy standing next to me is kind of good looking, then I think to myself, I swear I know this guy. He said to me "Do I know you? I swear I have you on Instagram" haha so we got talking, exchanged numbers. 

He asked me to go cinema, and that's where it all went wrong.

I got ready, made myself look nice, and I'm standing in the cinema waiting for him.. 
Half hour later..he eventually turned up. We got to the till and the guy asks "Would you like one or two tickets?" He replies "one".

I don't know about you, but I always think it's a gentlemen thing for a guy to pay on a first date, especially if they ask you out and if their trying to make a good impression! Of course I came prepared and didn't expect anything, so I bought my own ticket, he bought himself a drink and didn't offer me one so I bought myself a drink aswel! Good start so far haha! 

We're in the cinema, he keeps trying to kiss me, I don't mind a cheeky little kiss but the way he was coming on I could sense his intentions from then on, so I pulled away and just distanced myself.

When the film finished, we walked outside and he asked if I was hungry, "mm I'm not that hungry" I said, thinking he would offer to go for a snack or drink, but his reply was "fuck it, lets just go Mcdonalds" - got a keeper right there! lool.

I guess he did buy me a 99p popcorn chicken *awks*. We ended up getting on well though, we were talking for like an hour just about everything, I started changing my mind about him, until I realised instead of looking at me he was looking at other girls behind me.

We left Mcdonald's (that's embarrassing to even say haha), and just went for a walk, we was walking and saw the park so we went in to just go on the swings (your never too old for swings haha). We were talking, getting on well, until these 3 girls started walking towards me. I could sense they were going to say something to me and all I kept thinking was "their gona start on me, their walking over, what do I do - I mean, i'm with a guy on a first link, this is so embarrassing". It was what I would describe as a racial attack. And it only gets worse....

They came over and started shouting things and I had no idea who these girls were, never seen them in my life! And if you see me i'm a 5ft 1, petite little thing. I was just looking at this guy like so embarrassed and the park was enclosed with a gate so it wasn't like we could easily walk off like that.

"Do you like BBQ sauce" they said to me. So you can guess what they were about to do next (this was by far the most embarrassing thing of my life it hurts to even write it out lool). So yeah, they started squirting sauce ALL over me, my face, clothes, everything. I was putting my arm out like "can you stop doing that", but they continued. I mean, I can stick up for myself for sure, I'm not a fighter though! You would think being with a guy he would at least try protect me a bit from 3 big girls, but nope, he stood their and watched -  awks. My thoughts....

So yeah as I said it was a racial attack, so after a bit they actually squirted some on him, and he started running off leaving me! "Quick, come on" he kept saying, i'm thinking wait a minute.. they started on me and you watched, they put a tiny put on you and you run off and leave me!
My tiny legs couldn't even keep up with him. Luckily, my house was 2 minutes from the park so we called it a day, finally. The next day he actually messaged about going out again *confused* my reply was "sorry i'm looking for a man, not a boy".. awks.

Has anyone ever had any bad dates? Feel free to share!

Before I speak, Should I speak? | Thursday Thoughts

Hey everyone!

This will probably be quite a controversial post. I've always been the type of person that loves giving advice, and helping people in situations their in because of experiences I've been through. I'm an opinionated person and will always tell a person what I truly think in order to help them. If I just tell them what they want to hear, I don't believe that's being a good friend and will help them, and a lot of the time i'm right about what I tell people (sorry to sound big headed). This can become quite frustrating and also sad, when you give advice, but then have to sit back and watch people go through things you know is going to result in a negative effect.

But I've been thinking lately, is it always worth it?
This can come across quite harsh, but sometimes a better approach to giving your opinion or advice is to not say anything at all. Sometimes, by not saying anything, you can actually help a person more.

Let me give you an example, when it comes to guys, my friends always say i'm the best at giving advice and always come to me. But when we're in a happy place, sometimes we find it hard to see things from an outer perspective because were so blinded by how happy we are or think we are. 

Sometimes by saying your opinion to try and help someone, it can result in the opposite effect, because they don't want to believe it.

What we forget to remember, is our friends have our best interest at heart and can see things we sometimes can't see. However, I've come to realise that no matter what you say to a person to help them, they will of course do what they feel is right in the end. The positive outcome of this, is that you put the thought in their head. But people always learn through their own experiences, and sometimes have to find out the hard way - I for one am the first to hold my hands up to this, regarding my relationship post which you can view HERE. I couldn't see from an outer perspective where people were coming from.

I'd like to think of myself as an approachable person and never want someone to feel like they can't express themselves to me, because of what they don't want to hear. I've learn't that saying a positive and negative of the situation has a better outcome. People then feel happier about the situation they are in and are more likely to ask for your advice and take in what you say.

Is it better to just keep quiet sometimes? What are your opinions on this? I'd love to hear :)

2016 | That Inner Voice - "Just Do It"

Hey everyone,

Happy New Year :)

I hope you all enjoyed your night, what did you get up to? I went to a club called "Libertine" in Oxford Circus, London, which is amazing! I definitely recommend going. I wore the most amazing sparkly dress. Sequins are such a fashion statement right now and I really wanted an outfit that would stand out and this dress is just beautiful. It was from Asos, Petite True Decadence and £48 reduced to £21.50 - bargain!

So this was the only photo I managed to get NYE due to alcohol haha, it really doesn't do justice to the beauty/sparkly effect of the dress, so you can find the link to the dress HERE.

As 2016 has begun, I thought I would post a few of my goals and things about myself I want to improve. It's never too late to do something you've always wanted/thought about doing.
1. Confidence

2015 definitely taught me that I need to have more confidence in myself. I always think the worst of things or think I can't do something, when usually, I end up achieving it or doing it. Not only that, I get so nervous to go on dates! I'm not shy at all, I'm bubbly, talkative, I don't know why I get so scared because once i'm their I have a really good time (most of the time haha) so I want to not be so scared and just tell myself to do it. If it doesn't work out, I don't need to see them again, but if I don't go, I'l never know what could of happened - I need to keep telling myself that.

Positive mindset = Positive outcomes!

2. Your Circle

Remember the importance of positive, motivational people in your life. The people you talk to and hang around with in life has a major impact on your mindset and the person you act like. Surrounding yourself with friends that encourage you to do better are people worth keeping close.

3. Increase My Blog Followers

I only recently started blogging and I love it. I love how I can express anything on here and everyone is so friendly. I love talking, giving advice, and reading people's blogs - especially lifestyle posts! I feel like it's expanding my mindset, helping me to become more creative and I like the social aspect. I hope to achieve at least 100 followers within the next few months and thanks to everyone that's read my blog so far!

4. Hit the Gym!!!

I've been joined at the gym since July and been 3 times.. this is really bad of me haha. I used to be a gym addict at University and go 4 times a week. Since third year I stopped going and really found it hard to get the motivation to start it up again. I definitely want to tone up and exercise regularly to be healthy. And looking good for summer is always a main motivation!

5. Get a Graduate Job in Marketing

I graduated from University in September and as many graduates will understand, it is so hard to get a job after you graduate! One of the reasons I started blogging was because Marketing comes into it, and I really wanted to do something to give employers that extra nudge to hire me. I thought, what will I be good at and enjoy, that will also help me pursue my career. As I've continued to blog, i'm thinking of other opportunities that could arise from this. I really enjoy it and am excited for what the future holds (big goals are never too crazy!!).

What are your goals for 2016? Is there anything you want to improve about yourself?